Love is Cinta

In Islam, it is not a sin if you feel a special affinity or inclination towards a certain individual since human beings have no control on such natural inclinations.
Sheikh Ahmad Kutty, a senior lecturer and an Islamic scholar at the Islamic Institute of Toronto, Ontario, Canada.

Basically, having an acclination or special affinity towards a certain individual is not haraam. In fact, Allah told us   (Qur’an, 3;14) ‘Beautified for people is the love of that which they desire’  Allah said that feeling attracted towards the opposing gender is something that Allah has programmed in us so it is normal to have that kind of feeling! But on top of it, what do you deal with that?  We are, however, definitely responsible if we get carried away by such feelings and take specific actions that is forbidden. Islam dictates strict rules in the interaction between male and female. The Prophet (sws) has taught us that it is haram for a non-mahram (unrelated) man and a woman to be alone together. He warns that if this happens, Shaytan (satan) will be present with them. The Prophet (sws) said:  “Whenever a man is alone with a woman the Devil makes a third.” (Sahih Bukhari).   When shaytan starts to whisper all the wonderfull things about love, they will fall into the traps of shaytan.

“Do not come close to zina for it is a shameful (deed) and an evil, opening the road (to other evils).” (Qur’an, 17:32).

Allah do not say  ‘don’t commit  zina’ but don’t ever come near it. One does not simply leave their children on the street hoping that they will not get hit by a car.  One important Islamic principle is: prevention before cure. You do not come close to fire, and then wonder why you got burned. So the solution of the desires is to get married. But marriage is such a complicated things and comes with a lot of great responsibilities. And if the marriage is a result of illecit love relationship like holding each other’s hand, kissing and khilwa.. will loosen up the husband and wife relationship. It is because they had made something which is obviously wrong and built up the foundation of their relationship with the reduced  blessing of Allah.

Besides, these kind of relationship will be a cause to make each party doubful over the other. Is the wife  is having an affair at home while the husband are working pretty hard at the office? And the wife might have the similar thoughts too. Well if the spouse obviously don’t have the fear and loyalty towards Allah why should he or she be fear of His creation? So each partner will live in a state of doubt and suspicion, which will ruin their relationship sooner or later. Marriages that are usually good and lasting marriages are those that start at the least affection. That affection grows after marriage and maybe it will grow until the couples continue their companionship at the Jannah.

A a conclusion, don’t turn love into lust. From what should be a wonderfull relationship to a cursed one by disobeying Allah. Islam taught us that falling in love is not haraam, but the only way of doing it correctly is by marriage. And Allah Subhanah has Himself declared that it is He Who has put love and affection and mercy between the partners in marriage.

And among His Signs is this that He created for you mates from among yourselves,  that ye may dwell in tranquillity with them;  and He has put love and mercy between your (hearts); verily in that are Signs for those who reflect.  (Qur’an, 30:21)

Every products comes out with a manual for it’s users guidance.. Why? Because manufacturer’s knows how the device is gonna work and what is the best for it.. Same goes to us. Allah had put the feeling of love in ourself and the best way to handle it is to follow His guidance.

And Allah knows best.!

 [The idea of this article is adopted from many sources but it worth to share]